Anyone know where to actually meet muscular gay men

[muscleanime2233]

Just wondering I'm new to this site and the gym I go to is all straight men:/ muscles have always been a Huge turn on for me

[Slevin]

Originally Posted by muscleanime2233

Just wondering I'm new to this site and the gym I go to is all straight men:/ muscles have always been a Huge turn on for me

It really depends where you live. I know cities like New York and San Francisco have gay areas and usually the gyms in those areas contain a higher number of gay people in them =)

[mango]

You need to have access once in a while to a city like N.Y., Phili, Boston, Miami, S.F. , L.A., generally any city large and cosmopolitan enough to attract men don't want to be the only gay in the village, or suburb, or more likely just want a wider selection of partners. Men are only young once so I understand where you're coming from. Any of the above cities supports at least one good gay-bi-wannabe gym, some cities will have more than their share. Find a convenient metropolis near you; Houston? Atlanta? The bigger the city the better. Go to a gay bookstore and look at the gay guides that will give you a place to start because they all talk about bars, gyms and steambaths. What you want are the gyms. Find the one or ones in the city you can get to once and while and pack your gym back and drop in for a work out. Saturday and Sunday and weekdays after work would be best for reasons of well, more eye candy. Do your work out, enjoy the eye candy. See if anyone makes eye contact with you, etc. Don't come on too heavy. You have to pay your dues around strangers unless you're a model or something, or young and cute. Remember seeing and meeting are two entirely different things. If you want to get into bed with some gay guys with nice bodies then I'm afraid you better prepare to work out on your own in preparation. The better you look the better your chances. If you are way out of the loop and you're not in demand at your local bar then you're going to have to do what you can to look like who you want to meet. That's the route for many. An alternative for older guys is to puruse local ads in bar rags and find an escort that looks buff enough to throw away a few dollars on. That can be expensive and depending on what you expect in terms of personal interaction a real high, but expensive as gambling, or it could be an expensive downer if a buff looker isn't enough for you and you need more time and interaction. I would go the first route. In general buff guys don't start out that way they work for years and sacrifice a lot to get that way and steroids can make them less caring than they would be normally. So that's where you can easily , very very easily see them. Getting into bed with one would take a whole lot of work. But hell if your young it could be worth it. But I highly recommend that you watch your step. Men who are beautiful but easy to bed may not be a smart choice unless you're married to your condon, or you don't care about the future. There is always a downside, isn't there.

[muscleanime2233]

And I'm pretty young so wish me luck thanks for all the advice u should write books on this shit

[growingboyslc]

Careful though... a lot of the guys you find at the gyms are douchebags... takes a bit of work to filter through them.

[ActionBastard]

I don't want to be "that guy," but let me piss on this parade a little.

The above is practical advice, but knowing nothing about the OP, it might be a bit advanced. The clubs, bars, gyms, and bathhouses are all fun but they also tend to attract and retain n'er do wells who have invested more into the clubs, bars, gyms, and bathhouses then they have into their careers, educations, finances and health. That type tends to like company.

If you live in a small or conservative area it is great to get over the hump and see that there are plenty like you, and yes, after that you will probably generally be much more confident.

But tread lightly while you're looking for gorgeous guys. I wish someone would have sat me down and explained to me that the guy who wants you to know that he's the most gorgeous in the place doesen't want you to know he's the biggest wreck in the place as well.

[cccatl]

There are 2 issues with meeting muscular men...

1) Finding muscular guys...

2) Finding muscular guys that want to be met...


With regard to 1):
The gay muscle gym is the logical place to go. Lots of gay muscle guys, for sure. But, I've found that more often than not, they don't want to hook up there. There are lots of reasons, but for me, perhaps, the biggest one is that I don't want to fuck up my zen, relaxing gym space. I'm there to workout, relax from my day, and get huge. I don't want any drama. I just want to get into that meditative state and lift. Trying to get a good workout at a gym where I may have hooked up with someone.. that's distracting... sex just changes things... I dunno why. It just does.

That being said, there are times when I am hella horny, especially after a good, sweaty, pumping workout, and I just want to fuck. I guess that's when I'm most suggestible... anyways..


With regard to 2):
So, if not the gay muscle gym, then where? I would say that you need to go to a place with lots of muscular gay men that are looking to hook up. Where's that? I hate to say it, but it's at... Circuit Parties, or whatever you call them these days... I know. It definitely attracts a certain type. But there are lots of guys with good bodies there, and almost all of them are fucked up, horny, and looking to get laid.

[cccatl]

Has anyone checked out the hookup scene at bodybuilding shows? It seems like there must be a lot of muscular guys there that are into other muscular guys. But, it also seems like the scene is mixed, and therefore picking out the gay ones from the straight ones can be difficult...

[nzbodybuilder]

Originally Posted by cccatl

Has anyone checked out the hookup scene at bodybuilding shows? It seems like there must be a lot of muscular guys there that are into other muscular guys. But, it also seems like the scene is mixed, and therefore picking out the gay ones from the straight ones can be difficult...

Having competed several times, I can tell you that the last thing on bodybuilders minds after a show is hooking up! After months of dieting, the libido tends to disappear. Back stage, yes, there are muscle guys walking around in next to nothing and pumping up, but it's all about focusing on the comp, and with water depletion, sudden carb load with sugars then the inevatable sugar crash, the one thing that every male and female bodybuilder is looking out for is FOOD!

[Stoneman]

Haha muscleanime2233, you make everything seem so simple.

[lucas]

Yep, gyms are a good place to meet gay bodybuilders, but you have to know that big huge BB's look for other big huge bb's or young, goodlooking, potential BB's in great shape at least. So it is a matter of give and take, you get what you want depending what you have to offer. So don't think that big BB's will go for skinny or chubby boys. So go work out, sweat the dumbells, get some chest, abs, shoulders, hams, a muscled butt and they will notice you, and they will come.

[Frankly]

I would also recommend, if major cities or gay gyms are a little out of reach, I'm really liking realjock.com

lots of gay muscle guys there, lots looking for cam shows and some even to meet up. Its a decent site and fun to explore.

best of luck

[bigdave]

OK NZbodybuilder. I'll takke you out to dinner after the competition and just gaze and gaze.....

[mystery7]

Any other suggestions now? I go to the gym but I only find those I like that are either married or straight. How can I tell if they are gay? I mean I don't want to say I am gay and then I feel shunned every time I go there now.

[suma]

Originally Posted by nzbodybuilder

Having competed several times, I can tell you that the last thing on bodybuilders minds after a show is hooking up! After months of dieting, the libido tends to disappear. Back stage, yes, there are muscle guys walking around in next to nothing and pumping up, but it's all about focusing on the comp, and with water depletion, sudden carb load with sugars then the inevatable sugar crash, the one thing that every male and female bodybuilder is looking out for is FOOD!

So you're saying the one sure fire way of attracting attention to yourself and have all the muscular bbers calling at your door is to be the one guy with all the good food after the show? Hhmmmmm that's a plan. LOL

[Ogun]

Mystery have you tried going to gay bars?
I mean not everyone there is hyper-ripped, nor is every person there necessarily gay, but there are some and at the worst you can always attempt to get the attention of the shirtless bartender. (Mind you, I don't go there that often myself right now as I usually have to take the subway to get there.)

There are mixers too- social clubs for gay people, etc, and you might find someone hot there.

[mystery7]

Not a fan of bars now Ogun. Why does it have to be to meet people involves alcohol now?

[goodnight3455]

So are you looking for a "tap-and-go" or a serious, emotional relationship?

Not to generalize, but I think you'll find many bodybuilders maintain relationships that are incidental to the bodybuilding lifestyle. That is, bodybuilders' mates are also bodybuilders themselves or are highly committed to their mates' bodybuilding lifestyle. Mates may cook, keep home, or otherwise do chores to facilitate the bodybuilding lifestyle. In other words, to be in a serious relationship with a bodybuilder may mean a huge commitment in time AND effort.

Otherwise, you might probably attach yourself to someone who has potential and the ambition to grow in muscularity and develop that relationship.

Anyone agree or can add to this anecdote?

[mystery7]

Yeah I could give a try if I have too.

[muscledogg]

i'm not big on labels, but i'm a relatively str8 bodybuilder, very masculine and pretty massive, who likes attention from slim gay muscle worshippers...i know many big str8ish dudes don't openly admit to this, but hey, i like the skinny fem guys who drool when they look at me...i like to let them feel my pumped up muscles, massage me, and....No gay gyms in my area, CT, so it isn't easy to find skinny gay admirers...

[beastmode]

What about this site? Lots of like-minded guys here. Too bad we are spread out all over the world! But maybe someone lives near you.

[Sacsteve]

In all honesty, the best way to get what you are looking for is to hit the weights hard yourself, and sooner or later it will get noticed.

[Mad Dog]

A good place to start is in your dreams.

[Dannyelgym]

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[THE BODYBUILDING GIANT]

my opinion is if u work out u love people looking at u some people go further some dont i love having men all over my hard work admiring and kissing it some people just like having people look at them in the street its a big spectrum
as for me my god i train so i can show it off to people and have men kisiing licking and showing me how i make them feel getting my self horny thinking of it lol

[Dentistclark]

I have to say that there are very few big guys who are into normal size muscle obsessed guys (like me) but they are out there. I dated a Bber for 8 months and it does involve a lot of lifestyle compromise to accommodate training, eating etc, but the benefits for me outweighed the downsides. I mean, who wouldn't want to have 200lbs+ of muscle all to yourself.......

[EricRF]

In response to the person asking about the scene at bodybuilding shows... I've been to the Arnold Sports Festival several times, and forgetting about competitors, there are LOTS of big, hunky, beefy, and generally hot guys there... but I've yet to figure out where/how to meet them... the gay ones... there's GOT to be some there!

[brutus]

My gym is full of muscular gay men.

[irish muscle]

I have a profile on Big Muscle.com there are loads of massive musclemen who like some proper hardcore fun. Hit me up anytime you're on there. I'm http://www.bigmuscle.com/~olympic+goals

[EricRF]

Originally Posted by irish muscle

I have a profile on Big Muscle.com there are loads of massive musclemen who like some proper hardcore fun. Hit me up anytime you're on there. I'm http://www.bigmuscle.com/~olympic+goals

Ah yes, bigmuscle, bigmusclebears, and there's a leather one too. Not exactly "face-to-face" though. When you say to "hit you up" there... is there chat or IM or something there? I never noticed, but I'm going to check right now

[mystery7]

Any tips for someone who has never dated in their life before?

[AznMusclBro]

You can use an app called grindr.

[EricRF]

Originally Posted by AznMusclBro

You can use an app called grindr.

Or Growlr, or Scruff, or Jack'd... all smartphone apps

[irish muscle]

Originally Posted by EricRF

Ah yes, bigmuscle, bigmusclebears, and there's a leather one too. Not exactly "face-to-face" though. When you say to "hit you up" there... is there chat or IM or something there? I never noticed, but I'm going to check right now

Yes, you can face to face and message too!

[EricRF]

Originally Posted by irish muscle

Yes, you can face to face and message too!

OK, I can't find anything on those sites that indicates any kind of chat or IM... so... I'm just going out on a limb here... do you have to be a registered member to use those features?

[ilikmusc]

i have found muscular men at bars here in columbus, oh...not just the strippers, some of whom have become friends, or even lovers now and then, but sitting right next to me at the bar. just last sunday, a slender but muscular man started up a conversation with me, and after a while, flexed his biceps and asked me to feel them, which i did. (pure iron) i myself prefer more of the gymnast type to the bodybuilder. but bodybuilders there are...

[EricRF]

Originally Posted by ilikmusc

i have found muscular men at bars here in columbus, oh...not just the strippers, some of whom have become friends, or even lovers now and then, but sitting right next to me at the bar. just last sunday, a slender but muscular man started up a conversation with me, and after a while, flexed his biceps and asked me to feel them, which i did. (pure iron) i myself prefer more of the gymnast type to the bodybuilder. but bodybuilders there are...

Any bar(s) in particular? Even when I've been in Columbus for the Arnold, when bodybuilders, strongmen, powerlifters and all assortment of big strong muscled men are in town, I've yet to see any in any gay venues I've visited.