How To Meet Gay Men?

[Tundy]

Well, I'm gay and obviously looking for a boyfriend. But since this a straight man's (and woman's) world, that'll be quite difficult. I'm not exactly out of the closet, since I'm waiting for a decent guy to give me a reason to come out to my family and whatnot... So I don't ever want to go to any gay-specific functions. (Gay social gathers, clubs, etc.) There has to be a way to meet a good guy without using a website or going to clubs.

I'm also 19, so I don't think I could exactly go to clubs or anything like that.

[Mad Dog]

I'm also curious about how to meet guys without resorting to clubs/bars. I'm just so not that type of person.

[kezzz]

I think you must ask yourself are you comfortable of being who you are... Coming out is not just about letting people know but to be possitively telling yourself and reassuring to yourself that you know who you are.

It is harder to try and meet new people if you are not confident with yourself. So first step is, give it a real hard thought of how you want your life to be, understanding that, and coming out to yourself first (self acceptance)... then come out to your parents, if you can show the confidence of who you are to anybody that you can confide this confidence with, chances are it is not really anyone's business and no one really care what your sexual preference is, if they're your friends, or people that understand and truly know you, they'll support you regardless.

[Gene]

Originally Posted by Blaine

you can find the Gays very easily because they are look different from a common Man.

That's a load of BS.

There are flamboyent gays yes but the majority of gay men are very ordinary and some of them are very masculine and sexy as hell for both men and women. I get so fed up with people thinking that the flamboyent drag queens that prance around during the gay parade are the poster-boys for the gay world. Believe me they are not. In fact I blame them for giving the rest of us a bad name.

So unless you want to be a "glitter gal" get that image out of your mind and just be a person, be yourself but know that love between people is not wrong be they men or women, and you don't have to put on an act to be loved.

[Minotaur]

I feel like I stepped into Jefferson Airplane's White Rabbit in this thread.

[Minotaur]

Originally Posted by Tundy

Well, I'm gay and obviously looking for a boyfriend. But since this a straight man's (and woman's) world, that'll be quite difficult. I'm not exactly out of the closet, since I'm waiting for a decent guy to give me a reason to come out to my family and whatnot... So I don't ever want to go to any gay-specific functions. (Gay social gathers, clubs, etc.) There has to be a way to meet a good guy without using a website or going to clubs.

I'm also 19, so I don't think I could exactly go to clubs or anything like that.

Seriously, after my comment about White Rabbit I thought I'd try to answer your question.

Be friendly to other guys; gay guys are all around but most are in your position saying "where are all the guys?". Open yourself up to them being friendly to you. Let guys approach you too. Positive energy feeds on positive energy and will attract possible (boy)friends; negative energy feeds on negative energy and will drive possible (boy)friends away.

I look back and think about all the guys who were extremely friendly to me, and I wonder how many of them were looking for a boyfriend like I was. Yet I shied away and closed myself off. I think it's really easier than you think to find someone, as long as you don't overthink and try to force it. Let it flow and it will come.