Gay, bi, or straight?

[TheMM]

So, who here is gay bi and straight? I'm just curious, yes most of us are gay but I've seen some people say they're straight or bi (myself included). Not trying to put everyone in groups, just wanna know.

[SoraIsTheMan]

I'm straight dude but you wouldn't thank it if you thorugh my favs would you on deviantart
for those who don't know who I'm on DA www.door-to-darkness.deviantart.com

[hardjock]

Definitely gay, man. My cock gets hard as a rock when I see a beautiful muscular guy. When we touch, or kiss or anything else, it's not only the fireworks that shoot!

[GunMetalGrey88]

i could go on about how im not sure i just got to figure things out at my own place, but its hard for me

[chocomus]

I've never been with a man or a woman yet (I'm too shy) so what do i know? Well,, I know that i get a bonner over muscled handsome guys and their third leg and not over women chests, so i guess that means gay

[Mdlftr]

Originally Posted by chocomus

I've never been with a man or a woman yet (I'm too shy) so what do i know? Well,, I know that i get a bonner over muscled handsome guys and their third leg and not over women chests, so i guess that means gay

Or maybe you're just generally horny! It happens.....

[Esperanto Lives]

I'm definitely a bisexual, although I have preference for big, strapping men.

On a Kinsey test, I'd be a 2.5 or so.

Perhaps in the future it might be more specific and revealing to break bisexuality into three options: bisexual, bisexual with preference to men, bisexual with preference to women.

Originally Posted by chocomus

I've never been with a man or a woman yet (I'm too shy) so what do i know? Well,, I know that i get a bonner over muscled handsome guys and their third leg and not over women chests, so i guess that means gay

You're clearly gay, because you could have had me.

[Ogun]

Probably gay, but dunno. I usually dodge the queston.

[darkluster4]

For all you peoples out there, I straight. Sorry dudes.

[GunMetalGrey88]

didn't expect that dark but i bearly know ya

[chocomus]

Originally Posted by Esperanto Lives

You're clearly gay, because you could have had me.

Can I chose again? I didn't know you were available

[nj.]

I have a boyfriend. Girls are great, intriguing creatures. I'm not sure how I'd do in a romantic relationship with them. Emotionally it would be fine, but sexually it could be disappointing.
I go by gay for these reasons, but yeah, I've discovered that nothing in life is really clear-cut, and who the hell knows what happens?

[Big RR]

Gay and huge here....but have to tell you how I love flexing and showing off for the so called married muscle studs who come into my semi private shower stall at the gym and want me to flex while the feel how huge and hard my muscles are! I love making them come and then sending them home to the wife! One married guy loves for me to flex while he licks my big guns and then shoots all over my quads and then he cums again after I say, look what you did little man! Lick that off! I love all muscle gay, straight, bi or whatever as long as you are into muscle and getting huge! Skinny straight men do nothing to excite me. I truly believe that all bodybuilders gay, straight or bi are always checking out each other either comparing themselves to the big boys or secretley popping a wood. We all work hard to be admired and noticed! Jay Cutler is a supposedly straight bodybuilder, (I think lol! Jay is one of my all time favorites!) Has anyone had the pleasure of viewing the several videos of him posing for pictures at the gym or even on stage with what is an obvious hard on? During one of his videos of his workkout and photo shoot, he strips to his briefs and within a minute of posing he springs to attention! Its hot! He even bats at it and squeezes it! He tells the guy taking pictures and doing the video that he can't post it but I think Jay loves it! It's posted! Email me if anyone wants the link. [email protected]

[chicken legs]

Straight and female...but i can be a total perv

[Ender]

Being a virgin at age 57 I think I have the right to claim none of the above... but I do have self esteem and trust issues that that prevent me from becoming too deeply involved with any one. I do enjoy looking and the idealized male form, but the idea of having any sort of sex with another guy totally freaks me out to the point I can't even role play it. I have have fantasized and even role played sex with a woman successfully. But I find the entire concept of sexual relations to be unappealing, unhygienic and totally gross... Insert Tab A into Slot B, then exchange body fluids... why would any one think that is a good idea... Yes, I understand that is how procreation happens, but unless the intention is reproduction masturbation is far simpler and safer.

As I said I find the idealized male form interesting, more interesting then the female frankly. But when I look at an attractive male what goes through my mind is to the desire to be more like him. Basically like shopping for a car... I look at other guys will the idea of what it would be like to be interacting with the world from behind the eyes of their body rather than my own. the only way sex enters into it at all is in the form of "What would it feel like to get off in that body."

Ok, I admit I'm a bit odd but that is the way I relate to the world... Maybe it explains some of my eccentricity and not misinterpret some things I say...

Ender

[arpeejay]

Originally Posted by Ender

Being a virgin at age 57 I think I have the right to claim none of the above...

A lot of this stuff is self-definitional, of course, for which reason I tend to make a distinction between sexual behavior and sexual orientation.

Because I was married to a woman for 11 years and have two children, some people insist that I am bisexual. I'm willing to concede that I engaged in what could be considered "bisexual" behavior but in terms of orientation I consider myself "gay as a goose." What turns me on, whether I'm engaged in solo sex with myself or someone else, is the male body in general and male muscle in particular (sorry, female muscle doesn't do it for me at all.)

Even if I were celibate (and there have been times when that seemed to be my de facto condition), I would still consider myself "gay" based on my orientation.

Which makes me wonder, Ender? When you are self-pleasuring, do you think about guys, or girls, or both? Or yourself being the guy? And, yes, I know that's a very personal question, and, no, I don't really expect (or need or want) an answer. But I think it's probably one you should contemplate, if you haven't done so already.

All the best...

Richard

[greeneear88]

100 % Gay! Throughout my teenhood, i was unsure. Muscled, burly men always fascinated me, but both my brothers were straight as arrows, having girls over all the time. I even had a few girlfriends myself, but i never did anything beyond kissing. it just didnt seem right to me 'Course, when i started to get boners everytime a commercial with some muscled man on it appeared, or i was reading about muscle, or just saw a picture with a muscled guy in it, i just sort of knew. I thought it was weird, I may be overly hyperactive and sometimes the "WHEEEE" kind of gay, but when I'm "normal" (according to my friends) I act "straight" I guess I'm just that kind of weird guy o3o

[Ender]

Originally Posted by arpeejay

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Which makes me wonder, Ender? When you are self-pleasuring, do you think about guys, or girls, or both? Or yourself being the guy? And, yes, I know that's a very personal question, and, no, I don't really expect (or need or want) an answer. But I think it's probably one you should contemplate, if you haven't done so already.

Richard

Richard...

I have thought about it, a whole lot actually. I think about me being the guy I want to be... and if that was me what might be different in my life... maybe the idea of sex will another person might not seem so alien now, to be able to enjoy the company of other people in general, to actually like the guy that looks back at me from the mirror... I know I'm a "good person" and can be a great guy and friend when given the chance... but I don't really believe it most of the time, it's real to come across people willing to give me that chance... As it is being around people drives me up a wall because so little of what they say and do makes any logical sense to me... and they get pissed when I don't understand the cryptic messages of their actions...

I spend most of my life feeling like some kind of alien life form, that has to conceal alien nature from a world that doesn't tolerate any thing that isn't the same a them.

Sorry, I sometimes say way too much... more than any one wants to hear or I should admit...

Ender

[arpeejay]

Originally Posted by Ender

I spend most of my life feeling like some kind of alien life form, that has to conceal alien nature from a world that doesn't tolerate any thing that isn't the same a them.

I've known a number of (gay) guys in your boat. One friend, about your age, grew up in a conservative Catholic family in a small (albeit college) town in Ohio. From a very early age he knew he was different and he decided that different was wrong. Consequently, he perceived anyone who was the least bit attracted to him as being seriously flawed, or trying to put something over on him, or trying to put him down, because how could anyone...? I met him when he was 40 and his mother was still praying daily that "this curse" would be "lifted" from him. When I met his parents (he and I were rooming together at the time) I really wanted to slap the shit out of them -- and they both had Ph.D.'s, for heaven's sake.

What parents do to their children in the name of religion continues to boggle my imagination.

xoxo

Richard

[Mdlftr]

Originally Posted by arpeejay

I met him when he was 40 and his mother was still praying daily that "this curse" would be "lifted" from him. When I met his parents (he and I were rooming together at the time) I really wanted to slap the shit out of them -- and they both had Ph.D.'s, for heaven's sake.

What parents do to their children in the name of religion continues to boggle my imagination.

xoxo

Richard

To take the opposite point of view: If your friend was that "different" and was lonely/had low self esteem/miserable because he was: (pick one, any or all): 1. gay 2. straight 3. Catholic 4. just "weird" 5. No reason,
I can understand his mother praying for "this curse" to be "lifted".

-Who wants their child to be: miserable/lonely/"weird"?

-Parents can drive their children bonkers, or not understand them, but that doesn't mean they don't have their best interests at heart.

-In other words, Mom and Dad may have had good intentions, but just not have had any clue as to what to do.

-Ultimately, it is up to your friend to help himself. While parental support in always helpful, sometimes it isn't forthcoming, or it's so conditional "behave/believe this way or we won't support you/talk to you/allow you in the house" that a person is better off on their own.

Mdlftr - Speaking up for the parents

P.S. RPJ, I know you are a parent yourself, and understand both sides. I have gay friends whose parents "don't get it" either, but still manage to be supportive--after a long period of adjustment.

Religion may be the pretext because that is how the parents understand the world and organize their lives, but, ultimately, in many cases, parents will find a way to get back to a relationship with their children, even if the religion is pushing the parents away. The parent-child bond often (not always, unfortunately) triumphs.

Then the parents have to reconcile their religious beliefs and world view with the way their children are are. Not always the easiest transition! And yes, I know that sometimes people choose religion over their children. Just like people choose lots of things over people: food, sex, money, prestige.

At the end of the day, people have to be independent, and that may mean being apart from family -- or not.

[arpeejay]

A few things to follow up Mdliftr's very cogent points:

(1) In this case, I really think she was more concerned about his gayness than his unhappiness. Religion can be a very good thing (and I think my children tremendously benefited by growing up in a very inclusive, social justice oriented congregation) but it can also be a hammer for beating people, especially children, down. No matter how good their intentions are, parents who wield religion like a cudgel are doing their children no favors.

(2) I think one of the most important aspects of adulthood is coming to grips with ones childhood and adolescence. It's very hard not to ascribe to our parents (at least some of) the scars and bruises that inevitably accure while we're growing up.

(3) Of course, one of the most important aspects of parenthood is coming to grips with the fact that we can never be everything our children need or want us to be and learning to accept that, despite our best intentions, we're going to be the authors of some of those bruises.

Enough of all that.

Ask me about New Personal Bests instead! :-)

xoxo

Richard

[Chansey]

Hm -- honestly Its tough to say. I can't honestly say I have been attracted to a guy, but I AM turned on my muscles. The thing is, it can be a guy or a woman. However, since men tend to have larger muscles, my head would turn more to a well-built guy than gal.

But its really the muscles that catch my attention -- a mixture of admiration and envy -- not the person itself. That being said, I HAVE found myself attracted to many women/girls in my life, and often stuttering or acting nervous or shy whenever talking to exceptionally beautiful ones.

So, like I said, I honestly dont know.

[Mdlftr]

Originally Posted by arpeejay

Ask me about New Personal Bests instead! :-)

xoxo

Richard

What ABOUT those "New Personal Bests"?!!

Mdlftr

[condemned88]

Originally Posted by chocomus

I've never been with a man or a woman yet (I'm too shy) so what do i know? Well,, I know that i get a bonner over muscled handsome guys and their third leg and not over women chests, so i guess that means gay

Same here, in WTF mode right now, LOL

[LucidDreamer]

I am thirty, gay, single and a virgin. i love the male body, even more so with muscle, I hope to find a guy out there that has some muscle on his body. lol. I love this community we have here online. I think it is nice to see different lifestyles of people all enjoing the noe thing together.

[arpeejay]

Originally Posted by Mdlftr

What ABOUT those "New Personal Bests"?!!

Mdlftr

I was just changing the topic, that's all!

As for New Personal Bests (I think I posted about 'em separately), one thing I've noticed is that I do MUCH better in the summer months than other times of the year and I think that's completely and totally because of the amount of daylight. I don't like HOT (well, I don't like hot weather; hot men, that's a different story) but I need daylight.

June-July-Aug = GREAT

Dec-Jan-Feb = BAD

xoxo

Richard

[Mdlftr]

Hmmmm....

I find that I actually do better sticking to something indoors when the weather outside is crappy -- as in grey, damp, cold, windy. I don't mind snow-- at least it's weather that 'takes a stand,' you know what I mean?

It's the "indeterminate, blah, wishy-washy weather" that I don't like.

In hot sunny weahter I'd rather be outside, showing off!

(assuming I've done my bodywork/homework during the crappy weather season, of course!)

Mdlftr

[PlugNPlay76]

Hey there,

I love this topic and am lucky to be living in the generation of "Who cares? Love is love." Now, with that said, it seems labels are finally starting to fade, especially in the bodybuilding world.

What I find really funny is that there are more and more of these suppossedly straight bodybuilders that:

1. Get a girlfriend or a wife.

2. Start to get freakishly huge.

3. Find that their girlfriend or wife is not that interested in them anymore, and even insults the bodybuilder, by, dare I say it, saying that they are "too big."

4. Notices that the gay men at their gym notice them, and appreciate how big they are getting, and even push them to get bigger and freakier.

5. Starts up innocently with having one of the gay guys that notices as a work-out partner to encourage him to grow even bigger and loves the motivation and the gains he's making because of it.

6. The bodybuilder later dumps the girlfriend or wife for being unappreciative of his efforts and hard work.

7. The bodybuilder and work-out partner start to be more and more appreciative of eachother.

8. Eventually, they start to do "stuff" (for lack of a better term), due to this mutual appreciation for eachother.

9. A "gay" relationship develops from a suppossedly straight perspective..

Now, I'm not saying that this is always case, but, just an example to show that the lines between such defining lables are being blurred now a days and I for one perpetuate that.

Thank you,
Plug.

[boricua1]

This is a very interesting topic of discussion. I've had girlfriends in the past, and I think women can be very attractive (even have had sexual experiences with them), but I think a few years ago I broke out of my shell and became completely honest with myself. Still a young guy here, 28 going on 29 in a few months. However I'm kind of glad this self realization and honesty came out early in life because I might have been unhappy for the rest (or at least a good portion of my life), knowing my attraction for men is this strong.

I've been with my bf 3 years already this past November, and though it hasn't been easy, and it's felt a lot longer ... ha. I still love and care for him. My only issue is being able to be completely honest with him or anyone for that matter about my attraction to muscle. He's not a big guy or very muscular, I'm ok with that and still love him for him. However since he's not that into muscle because of one reason or another, I need an outlet, so a place like this forum is very welcoming and appreciated for a guy like me.

Sure bodybuilders and muscular men I find attractive, but being happy with someone who can love me flaws and all ... that has much more meaning then just muscularity. If anything my fantasies are based around me being the one that is completely huge, thick, muscular, and yes being worshipped. lol. Reading, watching muscle growth and roleplay helps me envision the big beefy muscle guy that I want to be. The shear size and power of the look and feel drives me nuts, and all I can think of is more, I want more.

Gives me great drive and motivation at the gym. Let me say this, I do mention to my bf and he does know (to a certain extent) muscle gets me going and that my intentions are too get bigger. I just don't think he knows how big I'd like to get (hence the complete honesty of it all.) Of course I've heard him say he'll love me no matter what or how big I get, so I guess that's a good thing. I've been trying to break it to him about the massive monster I want to be. LOL I show him some pics or vids of guys that are bodybuilders and huge, but downplaying the importance of the size, or that it be nice to be that big,and that I'll probably never get there.

All I know is that no matter how long it takes, set backs, even if I weren't with him there is no way I or anyone else could stop me from becoming the gigantic muscle beast I want to be. Just think about it gets me hard ha. Anyways ... you get the picture. lol

I've been reading all the other stories on this post, and I think it's very interesting and that I can identify with a few on some level. All I can say is to be honest with yourself, or build up that honesty, and strength with in so that you can be happy (regarding ones sexuality.)

[kezzz]

@boricua1, I totally understand what you feeling. I'm in similar situation except that we've been together for 5 years, and I never had any sexual experience with opposite sex. My partner isn't a big guy but he's lovely and he's my soulmate. He knows I'm into muscled guys, and like yourself, I often find my own sanctuary to seek muscles for extra thrill and kick. My partner, although not big as I mentioned, he's pretty strong for his size/height. He's slightly shorter and lighter but he's at least 3 times stronger than me... now, I'm no big guy either, just the average keyboard punchers and average normal build and height.

I seem to be one of the few bisexual guys here. xD