Roommate

[Moosetree99]

I recently moved to a dorm and have to share a room with another guy. He's a serious bodybuilder, and goes to the gym several times a day. Massive guy, huge muscles bulging all over, a great body. He also loves to lift weights for hours in the doorm room and then take a nap on his bed wearing only underwear. I try not to stare. He's added six inches to his chest since school started, or so he told me.

The trouble is that he has a girlfriend and is very loyal to her. I find it hard to be so near and yet so far away from him. He twice asked me if I could rub some suntan lotion on his body for him, but I got flustered and made an excuse of why I couldn't.

Also, one time he went out drinking (he never usually drinks), and came back somewhat drunk. He stripped completely and fell into bed... but it was my bed he had accidentally picked... and I was in it at the time. I dragged him back to his own bed quickly. What a body! And what a strange experience.....

[claygrant]

hey moose, you're damned lucky. I hope he turns out to be a good roommate. Muscles or no, a horrible roommate can ruin your year (just ask me about my experiences if you want details).

Your experience reminds me a lot of my story, Clay... except one small detail - Clay is gay. But a good thing could come out of this - if you are at all interested in lifting weights, your roommate would be a perfect workout partner!

[arpeejay]

Hmm.

Let's get this, uh, "straight":

-- He lifts weights for hours in your dorm room, apparently wearing not much at all

-- He takes naps wearing his undies and nothing else

-- He invites you to put lotion on him

-- He "accidentally" (drunkenly) falls into YOUR bed

Oh, yeah, I'm sure he's DEVOTED to his girlfriend. At this rate he's going to be knitting a shawl for her and trading cookie dough recipes!

Some people have all the luck...!

rpj

[omelissokomos]

Talk about manna from heaven!

Next time he asks you to rub lotion on his back (or wherever)--for the love of God--please say yes.

[glammaman2000]

don't listen to these guys.my guess is,you'll be roommates for quite a while.a lot of straight guys just need attention.don't get carried away with the"maybe's"&"possibly's".what i'm trying to say is:"MAKE THE MOTHERF***ER BEG FOR IT!"hope you're working out,too.it could help(both of you)

[brent]

I think you should think of this guy a a potential to learn how to lift/grow from, and not much more. I agree that you could drive yourself nuts wishing for something that probably won't happen. Think of him as a good friend, and noting more from now. Next time he asks you to spread lotion on him back, come up with a lie that closer to the truth, like you are bi, and it's hard enough to keep your cool. That might be very good, but other's might have better ideas. Maybe he wants attention from you, so long as you don't really make moves on him?

[glammaman2000]

...so it'll be YOUR fault?

[vlad]

I'm in a dorm too, but my roommate is my twin brother, so I got nothing there. You're damn lucky, but i can TOTALLY empathize with you with the "so close yet so, SO far away" feeling, I feel that every day. but man, i wish some people here would ask to rub lotion on them! And the whole drunken experience...*sigh* Even if you know you can't totally have that, be grateful for what you're getting, because it's better than me!

[Notbigenuff]

Originally Posted by vlad

Even if you know you can't totally have that, be grateful for what you're getting, because it's better than me!

Better than me, too! Not only are you lucky because at least you get to look at this guy and perhaps he will help you with his training, but he's also still growing (6 inches on his chest since the start of school?!?). Should be fun for you to see just how big this man can get.

[brent]

Originally Posted by Notbigenuff

Better than me, too! Not only are you lucky because at least you get to look at this guy and perhaps he will help you with his training, but he's also still growing (6 inches on his chest since the start of school?!?). Should be fun for you to see just how big this man can get.

Dude, you have the opportunity of a lifetime to learn a lot from this guy. Offer him a spot whenever he wants it in exchange for showing you how to lift/helping you get started. If he has weights in the room, then that's great. You should be HUGE in no time! You should enter the Fall Challenge!

[Moosetree99]

He came in drunk again, but this time, he's lying down by the toilets.. on the cold ceramic tile. What a joke!

I work at a sports/fitness center, and the managers encourage us to use the equipment when we're not working. I haven't so far, but I just might. And it's free for me. My roommate said he'd show me some stuff whenever we can find time to go together (our schedules clash mostly). Ya never know what will happen.

[glammaman2000]

be a friend&make sure there aren't any dumbbells to trip over between the front door&the bathroom.keep us posted.

[brent]

Also, be sure his head is tilted down. When I was in the Navy, someone choked on his own vomit when his roommates put him to bed. It really happens so I wanted to mention it.

[vlad]

that's how Hendrix died actually

there was someone a couple weekends ago who passed out in the bathroom too. college kids...*sigh* oh wait, I am one...

[ottomun6]

Moosetree99, first I'm green with envy about your roomate being a muscle-jock.
But at the same time, with this guy getting drunk maybe you can find out why he's getting drunk instead of just having a drink? I think we would all hate to see him loose his progress by polluting his body. Is he planning to do a competition?-what if he placed badly because the other guys were keeping clean? I don't think many (if any) of the pros are able to juggle alcohol with bodybuilding. I can't imagine Jay Cutler or Ronnie Coleman getting drunk because they are serious about bodybuilding.
Maybe you guys can put some humor into the bed thing. Build a friendship with him while you can and maybe you will find the courage to tell him about you being attracted to muscleguys. BUT don't rush it, take your time. Its ok for you to compliment him on his biceps or whatever. Maybe he will invite you to lift with him.

[Moosetree99]

My roommated rarely drinks, so it's not a big issue. I very much doubt that he would ever become an alcoholic.

Today, I had a strange and incredible surprise. My roommate came into our room breathing rather heavily since he had just been to the gym. There was an uncomfortable silence, so I asked him what was up. He didn't respond right away, but proceded to remove his tank-top and flex his great body in front of the small mirror we have on the wall.

Then he walked over and sat on my bed next to me and lied down, putting his head on my pillow and his legs over mine (and the book in my lap, effectively stopping me from studying), crossing his massive arms under his head. I could feel the power in his quads (is that the back of the leg?).

Not knowing what he was doing, I raised my eyebrows (trying to act like I wasn't thrilled) and said, "Excuse me?"

He sat back up and said, "You're funny. Feel this." He had raised his left arm and was clenching his fist, flexing his bicep.

"Nice," I said as I ran my hand over the muscle. "Take me to the gym when you go next time. I need to start excercising."

"Sure thing. I'm going tomorrow," he said as he stood up and walked toward the door. He started laughing. "You can start by excercising your dick in my @$$."

Before I could respond, he had opened the door and gone out. I'm a little uneasy though. He doesn't usually act so strange...

[OUstud82]

I'm just gonna go ahead and call BS on this one.

[PAWrestlerDude]

I would have to agree!

[Flexem4me]

Does the term "Letters to Penthouse" ring a bell?

[Notbigenuff]

Actually, I've always enjoyed a good muscle story--even if it might be in the "wrong" category.

And, if it's actually true--well, Moosetree99 is just might turn out to be the luckiest guy on earth! Ooops, gotta go...a well muscled pizza delivery boy just arrived and he's only wearing speedos!

[ottomun6]

Moosetree, if this guy is doing this, he probably won't leave his girfriend, but he probably wants some extra-curricular activites from you. It is plain and simple that he is making a pass at you. Maybe you should talk more and decide what you guys are going to do about it.

[Mdlftr]

If this is a true story, it sounds like the roommate is yanking your chain! [Not the fun way, either!}

When guys do stuff like that, they're usually messing with your mind. If you take them seriously, they can either go, "Oh yeah, I'm gay, too!" or, more likely, go, "Oh you fag! I'm just joking around!"


Either way, not a real cool situation. One way to go is to call him on it, then be prepared to act on his response (i.e., either move out or move "in".) The other way is to outwardly ignore it, then see what happens next. If he's serious, what does he mean? If he's not serious, tell him to quit jerking around!

[PlugNPlay76]

Hi there,

I have been following this thread a bit and have noticed some very interesting comments. Now, your roomate sounds rather in teresting to say the least, and deffinately raises the question is he straight, bi-curious, or really gay and his girlfriend is a cover-up?

Here's a little test you can do. Start hinting around, and be subtle, that you might be interested in him. Not as a sexual interest, but as a friend and possibly more. He's possibly flirting with you, or just messing with you. You can also find a way to tell him that you are gay, but don't act like you're really interested in him when you let him catch on. How he reacts to this can tell you whether or not he's really interested in you, at the same time, tell you what he is exactly.

This should also open the door for other questions and answers, and may make both of you feel more comfortable.

In wishful thinking, you could say that, who knows what he's getting at? He could be hinting around that he's interested in you, but he doesn't know if you're gay, or really interested in him.

Just some food for thought. When ever anyone is in this type of position, they should think about testing the waters first before diving in to see if the attraction is real and mutual.

I hope this helps,
Plug.

[brent]

The fact that the original poster hasn't been back leeds me to believe that this post is BS. Fun BS, and that's all that matters is fun sometimes. However, I find it strange that he hasn't responded lately.

[vlad]

if he does continue the exploits of him and roommate, I'd be fine with that, because this is a pretty good muscle story!

[Moosetree99]

I'm sorry, but I lied about my last post. I was feeling pretty bad because my roommate left without warning to move in with another guy. I'm sorry for lying to you all; it was wrong of me. (He really was a bodybuilder though.)

[dallasmsl]

I've had plenty of bodybuilder roommates...mostly straight. later, when I have time, I'll have to share some of the experiences.

[UKBeefy]

Out of interest can someone translate a little for us non-North Americans.

What exactly is a roommate? Is it someone who literally shares a room with you or does it also cover people sharing an apartment where each has a room to themselves (ie an apartment share).

How normal is it for unconnected people (ie not involved with each other) to share a room eg at College or elsewhere. It sounds strange to me for adults to be sharing rooms voluntarily. It is the sort of thing I would do on vacation perhaps with friends but not in a normal domestic setting?

[Minotaur]

Roommate can mean people who share an apartment or even a house (housemates, but roommate is the more common term), having their own bed rooms, but sharing the kitchen, bath room, living room and dining room.

In college, people are assigned their rooms, and the roommates can be total strangers. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't and causes problems.

It's actually all pretty common... saves on expenses.

[UKBeefy]

Thanks for that Minataur.

I've always wondered what people meant on the TV and in films. Perhaps we are different and more prudish here but I don't know anyone at university in my day who had to share a bedroom. We all had smallish but individual rooms. I would have found it very hard to relax with someone else around. Although I suppose it is a way for people to get to know someone well. The people I lived next to in university I did not get to know well. I did my own thing and said hello a few times but that was it. Maybe we are just more reserved.

[deetrakt]

Most college freshmen (first-year students) in the US have to share their dorm room with at least one other person. Roommates are usually assigned, although some schools take preferences into consideration. (I don't think you could request a huge muscle guy and get anywhere, though). To get a single first year, you have to offer a pretty compelling reason.

After first year, and especially as a junior or senior, it's easier to get a single room.

One exception--the oldest colleges and universities have adopted "British styles" in housing as in other areas. At Yale, many students share a living room with their roommate(s) but each has a tiny (7' X 10' or so) adjacent bedroom to himself, crammed with a single bed, desk, chair, dresser and closet--and a door that locks.
You can hear everything from the living room, though, so "privacy" is relative.

[luvyalots]

My first year of college, I was in a quad - four people to a room. Let me tell you, that was hell. I got along pretty well with one of the guys (a kid from a farm who liked country music, if you could imagine), but the other two were assholes. However, most of the other guys on my floor were nice (including the most gorgeous guy I've ever seen my life - sorry, no stories) and I generally loved living there.

Eventually, I transferred to a school closer to home, so now I commute and live in my own bedroom, but I sometimes wish for the dorm life again.

[Lucas88]

Originally Posted by UKBeefy

Thanks for that Minataur.

I've always wondered what people meant on the TV and in films. Perhaps we are different and more prudish here but I don't know anyone at university in my day who had to share a bedroom. We all had smallish but individual rooms. I would have found it very hard to relax with someone else around. Although I suppose it is a way for people to get to know someone well. The people I lived next to in university I did not get to know well. I did my own thing and said hello a few times but that was it. Maybe we are just more reserved.

UKB,

It often amazes me how nations which speak basically the same language can have such different cultures. Thanks for asking the question...I think we take for granted the disconnect sometimes.

And here's something to confuse you even more :

I went to a US college in the south where we had suitemates. There were four rooms to a suite with two guys in each 12' by 15' room (roommates) off a shared, short hall and who also shared a single phone (major drama there) and a large bathroom. The dynamics can be VERY interesting sometimes...roommates can get along great but one set of roommates will constantly be at odds with another set of roommates. OR...two roommates could absolutely hate each other but get along with the same suitemates.

Lucky me, I got to be a Resdient Advisor for three years...that can be defined as a "big brother", the police, a nanny/babysitter, or a mediator all in one. I had 58 residents each year, 40 of them in 8-man suites and 10 of them in a 10-man suite...I earned my pay, which by the way paid for my room!

The housemate and roommate situation is a lot more common after college for singles of varying ages who cannot afford an apartment or a home on their own...especially in urban areas where housing prices are higher. It's rare that they actually share a single bedroom unless the housing costs are EXTREMELY high (like in New York City) and the apartment is just an expensive studio (a one-room apartment). A lot of folks will buy a home and then rent out a finished basement to other folks, the rent helping to pay the mortgage they wouldn't otherwise be able to afford.

I know...way too much info.

Lucas