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Sure, there is a reason for everything. Just like there is a reason the sun rises or water flows from high to low ground. THis does not mean that when you believe you understand it, you truly do, and it especially does not mean that you need to meddle with it. It is a interestin academic discussion as to why gay peole exist, but you might as well discuss why people of different color exist. This is entirely different from finding a reason for it to be changed, and let me remind you, wars have started over this sort of thing. And usually when one looks back deep enough, the reasons can simply be explained by a BELIEF that it is WRONG. Interestingly enough, when this belief is removed, discussions tend to be much calmer, because there is no vested interest. In your case - and I admit it might be due to language (but I remind you, I am not a native English speaker!) - a lot in your tone suggests an approach to this question, from a belief that everyone was supposed to be str8 'but something happened'. In some cutures, this sort of belief would for instance result in only male children being born. In most, if it was conclusively proven being gay has a genetic background, and it could be meddled with, most if not all parents would opt for a 'correction'. IMHO this is wrong - because it implies an argument that being gay is wrong, and should be corrected, much in the same way as a congenital and possibly fatal dissease should be fixed. The overwhelming difference is, that a congenital dissease will kill its bearer, while someone who is gay may only be dead for his or her gayness by the hand of people who BELIEVE it is wrong, and futher, they have the RIGHT and OBLIGATION to correct it. Curiosuly, these tend to be the same people who say that gods ways are unfathomable, yet they will gladly doubt gods intention to create gay people amongs all things he created. My point, unroll your own argument all the way back to the beginning, and see if you can find some parallels. As soon as you figure that being gay is not wrong (i.e. in scientific terms, not an illness or condition, harmful or otherwise), the reason why people are so becomes very much academic. |
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The world is full of people who are sure that, even without any evidence, their predetermined conclusions about other groups of people are right. We call those people "bigots." |
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Oh, and I don't drink beer. It's not because I'm straight that I have beer in my fridge. You meanie! Using stereotypes like that is just... wrong. Isn't it? |
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Wow, a simple topic goes straight to hell because a bunch of idiots are taking things too seriously while not staying wholly on topic. The original poster asked "What is being gay?" whether it be trolling or not, the answer is pretty straight forward and doesn't require more than a few sentences to answer it. It'd be in everyone's best interest if the feuding party would just drop the subject and act like adults - or if need be, take it to the private messaging system. This side DOES have an 18 year or older age limit, right? To put it simply: Being gay (homosexual is the politically correct term) is when one is attracted to his or her own sex, both mentally and physically. |
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By the way, being committed to a particular method of investigation (i.e., the scientific method) is entirely different from being committed to a particular conclusion about a given question. The former concerns how one discovers the answer; the latter is what one believes the answer is. |
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Wading into the argument... ...or thread, or rambling observations...or WHATEVER this is! I have found that discussions may frequently get "off track" and become acrimonious when the original topic under discussion is either poorly understood, or not agreed upon by the participants. What happens is that each participant takes it upon him/herself to redefine the question, so that everyone's comments are either 100% correct (in the context of what they said) or 100% wrong, depending on the context of others. In this case, the topic title, "What is being gay?" could mean a lot of things: 1. What is the scientific/biological definition of gay, meaning homosexuality? 2. What does the cultural creation of identifying oneself as "gay" in the 21st century world, mean to an individual? 3. What has the poster's personal life experience been? 4. What is right/wrong with the topic under discussion? 5. What does the current poster think about this topic? It seems to me that ALL of the above topics have been covered during the course of this thread. I don't see any great conclusions being determined, because there is no agreement as to what the topic is that is under discussion. Many contributors are giving their opinions, and many other contributors are reacting to those opinions and giving their own opinions. It's an interesting read. However, it's not far removed from the random observations seen on many Internet posts. This is in contrast to the thread on "Muscle fetishes" which seems to have more consensus as to what the question is under discussion. Mdlftr |
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Assuming it hasn't been said already (and it should have been): I'm frankly uninterested in what uneducated straight people have to say about gayness. It's like a gentile talking about what it is to be Jewish or a white guy talking about what it is to be black. In other words, it just doesn't cut it. R |
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Rpj, Don't forget the perennial favorite: "Some of my best friends ARE __________[fill in the blank], so that makes ME an expert!" |
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But wait. If you can say I'm uneducated, it means you are educated, right? If you weren't, you would have said something like: "We are both uneducated when it comes to understanding different people". So, if I follow your logic, a white man can't talk about what it's like to be a black man, a man can't talk about what it's like to be a woman and... an educated person can't really understand the uneducated one... However, you seem to understand me perfectly, educated one. Does that mean that we both are educated, or... that we both are uneducated? My head feels dizzy. Too much thinking for my simple mind. I have my opinions and I believe in them. You have your own and you believe in them too. That's all there is to it. Grow up, won't you? |
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Oh, and please, if you quote someone, quote that person in a correct manner. It's quite sad, otherwise. |
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And, just to be clear, what does it take for you to change your beliefs? |
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You are clearly uneducated with respect to the various theories regarding the origins of sexual orientation, the construction of gender identity, and the politics of protest, much less the reality of being a member of a sexual minority. As such, you really have zip, zero, nada basis on which to rest your opinion, which, being an opinion, is pretty damned worthless with respect to the LIVED experience of gay men who frequent these precincts. Not all opinions are equally valid. Yours, in this case, are offensive. The question: Why do you feel the need to offer derogatory, offensive opinions in a predominantly gay group? The last, of course, is a rhetorical question. We've seen your type before and no doubt we will again. R |
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No opinion is worthless. You sound like those gay haters when you talk that way. They say you shouldn't exist and you say that I'm uneducated and that my opinions are "damned worthless". It's sad. In no way have I ever been offensive when talking about my opinions. I asked questions, wrote about what I THINK is the truth and BAM! I'm offensive, mean and homophobic! Something is wrong with you people and it has nothing to do with your sexual orientation! You asked me: "Why do you feel the need to offer derogatory, offensive opinions in a predominantly gay group?" I answer: "Why do you feel the need to show the world who you really are in a predominantly straight group?" You have your own reasons to do so and I have mine, even if I will never agree with you saying my opinions are derogatory and offensive. If someone has been offensive here, it's you. You say that a straight man can't understand a gay man, but I think I just felt what it is to be judged by people who don't know you because you don't agree with them. I won't call you heterophobic, since I'm the kind of guy who says offensive things, but you're close. Sadly close. |
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:| Why isn't this thread locked yet? |
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The guy does not agree with the majority, so we should lock his thread? Oh, come on, people. |
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Interesting Thead [COLOR="Orange"] I am probably at age 57 one of the older members of this forum. I was alive and around for a great deal of the turmoil that has taken the community of initials to where they are now. As such I have heard a great deal over the years which many of our younger members have fortunately missed out on. As a member of the gay community myself, I started doing a great deal of study when I was in College. In my own family I am not the only one also having a male cousin (still in the closet and hiding) and a male second cousin who were and are members of this community. There is little doubt that this is a genetic thing in that one of my friends was one of 4 children. This was composed of 2 males and 2 females. Of the 4 children by age 25 it was common knowledge that 3 of the 4 children were in fact of gay orientation. A man I dated in my very distant past was one of 12 children and had been reared in the Twin Cities of Minnesota. Of the 12 children seven were of gay orientation and a Mother and Father ended up losing 4 of those seven gay children to the HIV virus. - - - - - Most of my experience is that understanding and acceptance of one's homosexuality is a process under which we learn by trial and error what works for us and what does not. It is a realization and acceptance process that takes time. - - - - - I remember a time when the common statement made by those of conservative viewpoints was that gay people "recruited" children. I, to this very day, would like to know how one would sell that one! The U.S. Military can say, join the Military, get educational benefits, see the world, learn a trade. If we were to be able to "recruit" what would the selling points be? Join a group where a bunch of people are going to hate you simply because of who you are, lose numerous tax breaks given to people because of genetics, give up the right (in many states) to raise or adopt children, face job discrimination, face being attacked and beat up by teens incited by some "looney toons" religious nut job, and face the fact that Bible Thumpers will always consider you to be of unsound mind and unsound moral value simply because of your orientation. We are who we are and the best thing we can do is to support each other and fight for the rights of those yet to come into this world with our unique genetic gifts. [/COLOR] |
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Yes, we are who we are and I'm not trying to change anybody. I'm just trying to understand why some are heterosexual and others are homosexual. Thanks again |
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Niko, I recommend that you watch the show "The Making Of Me with John Barrowman". In the show, John searches for why he is gay. I think you might find it educational. My personal belief is that everyone in conceived with a bisexual template (an equal chance of being attracted to either or both sexes) and during gestation different factors alters the chance more to one sex or the other. Societial pressures is normally what screws people up. Usually forcing them to suppress their natural desires to conform to the supposed majority or demonizing those that refuse to conform to "norm", those without a strong sense of self-worth and/or strong personality are thrown into a vicious circle of guilt and depression that unfortunately usually ends in suicide. I AM a gay man, who was born into a loving family, and I was born this way. I never had a lack of either paternal or maternal influence. I was raised with love and discipline. Based upon MY persoanl experince, I find your stated beliefs to be flawed. I do not deny you your right to your beliefs, but I, in return, expect you not to deny me my right to mine. |
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True enough, social pressures screw people up. I won't say the contrary, since I firmly believe it is the case. You know, I was reading an article, the other day, forgive me for not remembering the title, and the writer was saying that about 70% of the straight men will or have tried a "homosexual experience". That's a lot. If I follow the logic of this article, the majority of the men out there are not completely straight, right? Or at least, once in their life, they haven't been. And many of my gay friends (no, it's not because I have gay friends that I am a gay expert) have had sex with women several times. As we all know, you have to be excited to have sex, since a flaccid penis won't do much good to anybody! They liked it, but not enough to continue. So, many straight men try homosexual sex experiences and many gay men try heterosexual experiences. That's strange, isn't it? Love and attraction has many faces. Let's take the exemple of Bob. (He doesn't really exist. Ok, maybe he does.) Bob was raised in a loving family and never had a lack of anything. He was good at school when he was a kid and all the teachers liked him, saying they were proud of having him in their classes. When he started highschool, he saw all those kids saying they were drinking booze, smoking cigarettes and having sex. He had never really felt attraction towards girl nor boys, but he knew he liked muscles. He admired muscle men and wanted to be like them. Sometimes, he could spend hours drawing muscle men and imagining himself being that strong and big. Then, he started hearing about homosexuality (he had never heard of it before) and started wondering if he was gay, since he liked muscles and didn't really like girls like other boys did. For a time, he thought he was gay and people around him started thinking so too. He had to be gay, since he wasn't sexually attracted to girls, right? The other boys hated him, since he was not normal and the girls hated him, since he didn't want to go out with any of them. Bob even tried to commit suicide, once, but he failed and promised himself that he would never try to end his life ever again. (Nobody knows he tried to kill himself, by the way.) Bob had a very strong personality, but that's not enough to be happy when you feel like the world hates you. So, Bob had a great family, was good in everything he tried and lived what seemed to be a good life. However, Bob knew he was not normal and it made him suffer. After a few years and a lot of thinking, Bob came to the conclusion that he wasn't gay, since he never felt any sexual attraction towards men. He started dating girls and discovered that he had to feel respect and admiration for a woman in the first place in order to be excited by her. He discovered that love has nothing to do with sex and that sex does not dicate who you are. I think the whole "gay" thing is just a normalization attempt of the society. If you don't like women, you are gay, which is weird. If you like women, your are normal, which is good. If you like both, you are even stranger that the gay ones, which is really bad. Lol. I'm not sure if we'll ever know for sure why some people are gay. I have my theories, some have theirs. However, what I know is that you don't have to let sex dicate the way you have to live your life. You are who you are and that's all there is to it. You don't have to listen to what society tells you. At least, that's what I think. |
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Some clarification for you: First, Mad Dog didn't quote "scientific evidence as if it is absolute truth." He said, "scientists...obviously form their OPINIONS based on evidence." To spell it out for you...they have formed their OPINIONS about homosexuality based on AVAILABLE evidence and data and, I can guarantee you, it's one hell of a lot more information than the information to which you have access, i.e., a few gay friends who might not have opened up quite as much as you think they did considering what your posts show about your ability to be open-minded. Second, he said, "they are OPEN to having their OPINIONS CHANGED if evidence CHANGES." To spell it out, as more evidence becomes AVAILABLE, scientists regularly reevaluate their OPINIONS. Hell, even the scientists don't agree 100% on everything because of how the data is interpreted, so how can you possibly KNOW what being gay is. You have made very clear in your posts that you are NOT open to new evidence, information or opinions and you seem to think that you are the ONLY person to have a heart and instincts so you MUST be right in your conclusions. Guess what...we all have hearts and instincts...some of us are just more open to ALL the evidence that's available to us and don't pick and choose what fits preconceived conclusions. I apologize if this post comes across as hostile but you asked a question and then displayed nothing but close-minded arrogance and condescension to anyone that chose to respond in a way that didn't fit your conclusion. You may think you were just being "factual" or whatever...however, that would actually require you to HAVE some facts and not just second-hand and likely incomplete stories from a few friends. Your posts have been agrumentative and dismissive of other's opinions and/or contributions to this thread. If you've already made up your mind and have no interest in actually hearing what other's have to say, why ask the question in the first place? I don't take issue with you personally and I won't lose sleep feeling "insulted" by your words because that's all they are...words. While you absolutely have a right to your OPINIONS and BELIEFS, so does everyone else on this site and several have expressed them in good faith. Here is mine: Homosexuality is a result of a combination of genetic predisposition AND biological occurances during pregnancy. How a person's sexual orientation is expressed in life depends on both where the person's brain function lies along the scale between heterosexuality and homosexuality AND environmental/nurture conditions during childhood...how we express our sexuality is the only choice we have in the matter. If that doesn't work for you, then we'll just have agree to disagree. We're ALL entitled to our own beliefs and opinions. I'm open to other opinions as long as I'm afforded the same courtesy. Last edited by Lucas88; April 1st, 2010 at 02:35 PM. Reason: last sentence added |
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Anyways, I wont lose my sleep over this either. That's a discussion and not a question of life or death to be right. |
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Since we're all into the whole explanation thing here, *somebody* PLEASE explain this for me... http://www.gayforit.com/video/106341/frat-boy-strips |
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I don't want to see this stuff, and I don't have to watch it. What people do behind closed doors is their own business, as the U.S. Supreme Court has repeatedly stated. Mdlftr |
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Lol. What's the point of posting the link of this video? I don't understand your reasons... Please explain me. |
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I always knew I was different, even as early as 5 or 6. But I always acted in a very macho way and generally recoiled from effeminate boys while growing up. (Ironically, several of those dated girls and were very popular.) But I can recall being transfixed by the sight of teenaged boys with muscle, particularly when I was an adolescent on the swim team. I was such a bookish geek, it took me many years to eventually get involved in weightlifting, but I did and found I enjoyed the discipline and the stimulation. I never quite became the ideal I wanted, but I was able to push my body much further than my genetics intended. I do subscribe to the belief than probably 75% of most people have the potential to be "circumstantially gay" -- like in a desert island or end-of-the-world scenario. The 25% that remain are people too hung up get over preconceived notions and dogma. |
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I would not put that very far from the truth - simply because, the very first person you get to have a sexual relationship with (and I'm saying it in a broader sense here), is yourself. And that relationship is by definition homosexual... I would even go as far as to put up a theory this is where the root of homosexuality lies - especially in men. In an evolutionary sense, procreation is competition, and there has to be a mechanism in place that enables one to size-up one's opponents. Further, the purpose of this mechanism is to see if one can gain some sort of advantage by recognizing desirable and undesirable traits (just go back in time to puberty and adolescence and see how friends, and further, role models come to be, as well as how they are emulated - before one hopefully learns to recognize qualities of one's own). All of this requires a mechanism that evaluates the very characteristics that define gender, and that includes sexual characteristics. |
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